Sunday, November 18, 2012

When You Lose Them

Something strange happens after your heart has been brutalized in ways you could never imagine.  An invisible veil separates the Once Bitten from the thrice.  So at the moment when you're now ready to put yourself out there; to explore the scary world of singles and try anew and for whatever reason it doesn't work out, the heartbreak just isn't as palpable anymore.  You can see into the hearts of others more clearly, understanding their motives and undercurrents so fully... the future almost writes itself.  No bitterness to be felt, just a nodding acceptance.

Not trying to be super dramatic, however; at one time my heart was broken following the end of a relationship with someone I argued with constantly and then again by someone I never had the chance to with audibly argue but felt the tense unsaid ripples in my bones.  This knowledge is hard won and once gained not easily lost, becoming a permanent fixture within.  My point is that these little goodbyes don't hurt so much anymore.  With time and wisdom, we can finally see them coming and subsequently let them go with grace and understanding.  We can say, "You're not the one and that's ok."  Our hearts are open enough to wish them well; to send them light and love as we continue on our journey. 

Since I'm still not ready to have that uncomfortable conversation about The Cranberries , in the interim please enjoy [or don't] this little ballad that has come to mean so much to me.

The Cranberries - No Need To Argue

[Though I guess I wouldn't be human if I didn't harbor some snarkiness at times about any of the above, I'm not another Mother Theresa after all.  But that's what my Twitter is for.] 

Art by Ruth Bradley

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